If you're a straight woman getting divorced, you might be afraid of what's going to happen. Will you ever have a date again? And if so, there can't be anyone good to date, right?
W hen a divorced woman on "the wrong side of 45 with a brace of kids" began to write about her experiences of being single last week, she opened her blog with the extraordinary statement that she was in "relationship no man's land", condemned to be alone for the rest of her life. The anonymous woman, whose blog is called The Plankton, is not alone in believing that there are problems specific to being a single woman in middle age. A survey this month found eight out of 10 women over 50 think they have become invisible to men.
According to research conducted by Penn State professor Dr. Paul Amatothe divorce rate still hovers between 43 and 46 percent for married adults, making for a veritable minefield of broken hearts out there. The good news?
I got divorced when I was just God knows there are plenty. Even as a little girl, I always dreamed of being a mother. And I was blessed to become one for the first time at 27 years old.
I was told by other single women over 40 who'd been in the dating pool longer than I had that there were "no men out there. I could have sworn I spied members of the male persuasion on L. That is, if you like your men hairless and sweating in yoga class, grunting through their vinyasas, dragon tattoos on their waxed calves, or perhaps speeding past in their silver BMWs, sporting Bluetooth sets, shaved heads, and glinting veneered teeth.
So suffice it to say when I found myself divorced and suddenly single at midlife in the modern age, I was a little weirded out. When I first created an online dating profile, my now ex-husband and I had filed the divorce paperwork and were just waiting for it to be official. Because we live in New York City, we were still living in the same house, amicably hatching out arrangements for friends to buy the place.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Because I'm the Mom. We've had it all: careers, marriagekids, divorce.
While Aunt Debbie may have some wisdom, we'd rather leave it to the pros. So we spoke to a handful of dating coaches and relationship experts for their best tips for dating after Read on, but don't forget: Being on your own is just finetoo.